There’s a quiet truth we often miss in the midst of our professional striving: no one is coming to give us permission. Not our bosses, our mentors, or even our families. And yet, we wait—trapped by our own expectations and obligations. But here’s the thing: you already have permission.
Chapter 10 of Lean Out: A Professional Woman’s Guide to Finding Authentic Work-Life Balance reminds us that leaning out isn’t weakness—it’s wisdom. Permission doesn’t require burnout, a diagnosis, or a breakdown. You can find it within yourself.
In the chapter, which I read on the Lean Out Podcast this week, I highlight two women physicians and a couple other professionals.
Heather was a program director at in an academic practice, who felt drained and unsure of what she wanted. She knew things needed to change, however; her health was deteriorating. Through reflection, she realized that what she really wanted was harmony, connection, and a purely clinical role. She had to give herself permission to step down from her draining leadership role and shift her priorities.
Asha was a high-earning pain physician in a private practice with the seemingly “perfect job.” But deep inside, she longed to immerse herself in academic work and leave a legacy in her field. Her dream didn’t fit the mold of what others thought she should want. She had to give herself permission to go against everyone else’s expectations.
Permission doesn’t come stamped by authority or handed down through the ranks. It comes from within—from knowing your values, trusting your instincts, and choosing joy. Have a listen to the chapter and let me know: when have you experienced pure joy? Share your thoughts by leaving a comment below!
Lean Out Podcast: Worth with Jen Wagner
